The story of the Rwandan genocide can be seen here.
I could tell you to imagine that your whole family was killed and ask you how you would react. For most it is nearly impossible to imagine but some can experience this or similar type of loss. Instead, analyze and either intense or long going dispute you have. What are the origins, what are the impediments to resolving this issue, did outside forces contribute such as (social) media, where their things that you did to try resolve the issue and why was the issue resolved or not resolved?